Friday, October 26, 2012

3 years

It's hard to believe it's been three years since we said hello and goodbye to our first born daughter, Weslee.. if you've followed my blog you know our story.  For those that are new I'll give a brief overview: Ben and I tried to get pregnant for six months when we finally got a positive pregnancy test; we were elated!!  We went in at 8 weeks and heard a strong heart beat.. at this appointment they also did an ultrasound.  We went in again at 12 weeks and 16 weeks to hear a beautiful heartbeat!!  We were so excited about our 20 week appointment and finding out the sex of the baby.  During the ultrasound we found out we were having a girl but the tech continued to look at the scan for what seemed like forever.. to make matters worse it was a student doing the ultrasound.. bless her heart, I don't think she had any idea what she was looking at.  She was very professional as she stepped aside to let the seasoned tech continue to scan.  I knew something wasn't right when the doctor came in and stood on the opposite side of the scanner.  He then put his hand on my leg which is a terrible feeling.. almost like an I'm sorry without saying anything.  I asked him if he would talk out loud and he asked if I would give him a minute.  After a short time (again felt like forever) he said something is not right, the head is not formed.. I'll meet you in my office to talk.  A lot was said but long story short, our daughter was anencephalic.  Being medical, I started thinking of all the flaps that could be done, how we could "fix" this.  I was finally told that she would not live outside of my body, zero percent.  We saw a specialist the next day that confirmed the diagnosis.. by this time I had googled anencephalic and learned exactly what it was.. there are different degrees of this diagnosis and Weslee's was an extreme case.  Our daughter, who we named Weslee Faith Mizell was stillborn on October 24, 2009.  Nothing could have prepared us for the emotions that came with going through natural childbirth for the first time and leaving the hospital empty handed.  We were surrounded by our families throughout the whole process which was a huge comfort.  It was a bittersweet day and still feels as real today as it did three years ago!!  I try to use our story as a testimony to witness to others.. I feel we are a success story, Ben and I kept our faith and love each other more today than we did when we said I do in 2007. 

We did try to get pregnant again and went through hell.. I don't have the energy to go through those years but we now have our miracle baby that specialists said we would never have on our own..

I'm sitting here watching our Charlee (boogie as I call her) sleep and am thanking God for his perfect plan.  We love and cherish her more than she'll ever know. 

October 24 will always be Weslee's day, we are so proud to talk openly about her.. we will forever cherish the few hours we got to spend with her physical body. 

God is good

 Finally, a positive pregnancy test!!
 Around 20 weeks..
 This is the outfit my sister dressed Weslee in once she was born..
 This is Weslee's wall in our home, we can't wait to tell Charlee about her big sister!!
 Holding her for the first time..
 the tiny hat that she wore..
 Ben and I checking out every little thing about her..
 her perfect foot
 Ben holding Weslee for the first time..


These are some of the memories from that day in pictures.. we have so many that to some would be too much but to us are pure bliss!!

1 comment:

Nichole said...

It has been a long time since I checked in on your blog but I have wondered about your family a lot since I have a friend who lost a baby girl a year ago for the same reason! I am so happy to hear of your new sweet bundle! Congrats! AND Happy Mother's Day times 2!